About This Episode:
In this episode of “#WalkWithMe” I share some simple hacks on how to quickly overcome moments of doubt, insecurity or uncertainty in ways that can elevate our level of confidence in ourselves.
Question for you: On a scale of 1 to 10 right now, where would you put your personal confidence? I think we can all agree that confidence is essential in achieving the success or fulfillment we want. I believe confidence is mandatory when it comes to truly living up to our full potential. There is a lot going on right now that can shake our confidence as we’re in a time of shift. I want to talk about some of the things I’ve learned and found useful whenever I face doubt, insecurity or uncertainty and want to elevate self-confidence.
#1 – Create an image in your mind of the best possible version of your future self.
What is that version of yourself in the future—as far as you can see—that you aspire to be? Envision as clearly as possible what it can look like if you reach your fullest potential. Each us of has our own potential; what does it look like when you actualize it? Some people will then translate that image into a physical picture or just write it down. Describe your best version of yourself and then reframe it into daily affirmations. Whenever you face doubt, remind yourself that you’re becoming that person.
#2 – Focus on your strengths.
Focus on your unique gifts and talents, and what you’re amazing at. We all have gifts and talents, but so often we’re brought up to focus on our weakness or what we didn’t do right or what is missing instead of what we do have. Get clear on your natural talents and gifts; what things come easy to you?
#3 – Stop comparing.
Many of us instantly compare ourselves with those on social media. So many profiles have a picture of perfection, but remember this: You’re seeing only the best parts of them. Reality: We don’t know the actual journey everybody is on. Peel back the perfection and you’ll find everybody has their own insecurities, struggles, etc. Stop comparing your chapter 1 to somebody’s chapter 20. The only person you should compare yourself to is… the past version of yourself.
#4 – Stop the negative self-talk.
Negative thoughts can tear you down and ramp up fear. Changing that starts with awareness. Every time you start to talk in a negative way, stop and recognize it. Try to find a positive lens on the exact same situation. It doesn’t matter how negative it is, you can reframe it to a positive.
#5 – Focus on positive input and choose your environment wisely.
Don’t surround yourself with people who control or limit you. I’ve found there are two types of people: those who build you up, and those who tear you down. Focus on people who see you better than who you are today and lift you up to that. Start to limit access to those who do the opposite.
#6 – Celebrate your victories.
So often we’re focused on that next thing that we lose out on acknowledging ourselves for what we’ve done.
#7 – Have faith.
I believe each of us was created for a reason. We were intentionally designed for a purpose. You need to have faith that you’re not here for mere happenstance. Faith is understanding that you have been given a unique combination of talents and gifts for a purpose bigger than yourself.